Today is the start of a week off. The routine of work doesn’t get a look in for nine days.
To kick start proceedings I sat down with a trusted friend – my weekend papers along with a cup of earl grey tea (oh and a chocolate croissant. damn you incredible Argentinian family bakery for only being 2 minutes from my house). Any who. After the Monday to Friday routine of doing and being and talking and seeing, where time is your own but not, I love nothing more than to read the papers and stretch out like a fat cat in the sun with unguided, unrestricted time and reading material. To me the act of carving out expansive time where nothing is required from you, where you do exactly as you want is the gentrified older statesmen of rebellion. Some would see it as lazy and self indulgent, I see it as an essential medicinal pause in an otherwise action orientated, noise filled do do machine of a world. Rebelliously pulling out of the slip stream of our constructed lives to just ‘be’.
It is a ritual which I have performed countlessly over the years and which brings much pleasure. I enjoy and require a fair amount of cave time, time out from doing, talking, being and seeing. Clocking off allows me to recharge and gives me the beans for another round of playing nicely with others.
The Italians have a saying “dolce far niente” – “the sweetness of doing nothing”. And this is a personal religion to which I am a slavish devotee. I have no aversion to action, to doing, to turning up to the world, but not 24/7.
We are surrounded by rituals, in religion, sports, societal rights of passage (ie: turning 21), business…..the list goes on. I love the rituals we create for ourselves the ones we grow into which help us navigate the world and celebrate whats important. The ones we share (or shared) with love ones that bind us together and give us a sense of belonging.
Im curious to hear about other peoples rituals……..created or inherited from family or friends that bring you joy and a deep connection. That help you navigate your world. Do share…..